Lessons I Learned

This photo was from last year, but it goes with my theme. My children have graduated into young adulthood. Parenting takes on a little different role when that happens, but some lessons that I  leaned when they were little will always stay with me.

Expect the Unexpected : Like when  your toddler is admiring the rubber duckies in the big fountain in the middle of the medical clinic and they decide to take a closer look by jumping in!

Be prepared to be Humbled : When you tell your 7 year old you will join them in the backyard soon. Next thing you know your little one bursts in the door and is glaring at you talking on the phone and says, “Well I see what is more important!” 

Your children are watching when you aren’t even thinking you are teaching a lesson : They remember when you forgave their sibling for breaking your favorite mug. Bringing it up years later saying how “things are just things” and that you showed what was more important.

You reminisce more than you think : Apparently I had been talking a lot about the days when my children were little for  my 10 year old looked at me and said, “You really need to get yourself a 5 year old!”

Your children will imitate you when you least expect it : Like when you are having morning sickness with your 2nd child and your toddler joins you in the bathroom, leaning over her potty chair and growling!

Power of “I Love You!” : Hearing it from your older child makes your heart melt as much as when you heard it for the first time from your toddler.

What a Cedar Chest Holds : Baby clothes, Homemade cards and little drawings, mementos of special milestones in your childs life, but will  never be big enough to hold the deep emotions of feeling incredibly blessed, and to be honest, incredibly stressed at times, of watching your children grow!

56 thoughts on “Lessons I Learned

  1. When your children reach adulthood, your role must change from parent … to adult/experienced friend. Even though you may believe they still need their parents, they will almost certainly disagree … what do parents know about life anyway? I feel sorry for the parents who cannot/do not make that transition because they are missing out on so much but, from what I know about you, I think you were successful in that role change. Well done! 🙂

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  2. Excellent post, Carolyn! I especially like the wisdom about them watching you when you aren’t trying to teach them. Kids learn how to overcome adversity, keeping calm in a crisis, and taking responsibility for our actions when we model these behaviors. I maintain that many of the most important lessons I taught children as a teacher were not things found in a textbook.

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  3. A favorite quote of mine : “The art of mothering is to teach the art of living to children.” – Elaine Heffner. It appears that you have managed that quite nicely. Another favorite quote, which can be found in many variations, has its origin in the 1953 book “Where Main Street meets the river” by Hodding Carter ll. The book attributes it as being told to him by a “wise woman” : “There are two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots; the other is wings.” You will find as your children grow older that giving the roots was easy but, though necessary, giving the wings…not so much! Happy Mother’s Day!

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