The question should not be whether we believe her or not. The question instead should be why do we feel the need to judge her?
There has been a news story recently that has caused a lot of stir. There is a man who is very close to becoming a Supreme Court judge. There is one thing though that now has come to light. A lady has stepped forward saying that this nominee for the Supreme Court sexually assaulted her many years ago.
It has been the topic on all kinds of social media and the one thing that gets said over and over again is “Why did she wait so long to come forward?” Which is followed by this popular answer, “Well obviously she is lying if she waited this long to say anything.”
This answer has so many problems with it and it brings me back to my first question, “Why do we feel the need to judge her?” And this isn’t just about her, its about every female that has dared to step forward admitting to being sexually assaulted.
We wonder why more young girls and women don’t step forward, the answer is simple. Who wants to risk getting raked over the coals again and suffer shame and humiliation, after already going through a traumatic experience!
I think of the women who are reading the discussions on social media about this case, and listening to the news reports about this woman stepping forward. The women who are reading and thinking to themselves, “me too”, “that happened to me”. The women who are silently cringing inside as they read all the negative publicity that this woman is dealing with now. Do we really have to wonder why more people don’t come forward?
Why are we so quick to judge? So quick to throw that stone. Why are we so quick to say, “well if it would have been me… I would have….” Really? You know exactly what you would have done if the same thing had happened to you? We can say all we want about what we would have done, but until you are in that situation you really don’t know. People respond to traumatic situations in so many different ways!
Where is our compassion instead of our judging heart? That can be said in a lot of other situations as well, not just sexual assault cases.
Why is it that we are so quick to decide what someone’s whole story is when a lot of times we only know half the story?
Can you imagine how much better this world would be if we were as quick to show compassion as we are to judge? As quick to give a helping hand as we are to tear someone down.
I think these 2 quotes sum things up pretty well.