I was thinking today of all the different ways we encounter people that we don’t know. At the bus stop, in a coffee shop, on a park bench. We may see someone every day, but yet not know anything about them, besides the fact that they come to the park or coffee shop. What follows is a fictional conversation that popped into my head.
Person 1: “I see you here every day at this same time. Who are you? I have seen you glance my way when you think I am not looking. I can describe your physical features in detail, but I don’t really know you. Are you happy with your life or sad? I never see anyone come with you, do you wish to be alone?”
Person 2: “Here you are again, I see you over there surrounded by a bunch of your chatty friends. You probably don’t even notice me, sitting here alone. I see your smile and the gleam in your eye when you laugh. Even though your smile and laugh are not meant for me, they do help to brighten my day. I think I would like to get to know you. What things do you like, besides overpriced Frappuccino’s and Latte’s? ”
Person 1: “What are you thinking when you look over here? Would you guess that sometimes I feel lonely even though I am surrounded by a group of chatty friends? Would you guess that sometimes I wonder who I really am?”
Person 2: “Who are you? Do you have days where your smile doesn’t shine? Do you have days that feel like mine? Days where the rain falls and I am just trying to make sense of it all? Would you join me if I asked you to? I see you sometimes linger at the table after your friends leave and you glance my way. What would you think if I waved at you to come over? Would you pretend that you didn’t see, as you walk out the door?
Person 1: “Who are you? I really would like to know. Here I sit, my friends have gone and I still linger. You probably would never guess that I can be shy but I can. Will today be the day that I make myself be brave and approach you? I always say I will someday, so why not today? What will you think if I approach you? Will you smile but yet inwardly sigh, wishing I hadn’t disturbed your peace?”
Person 2: “I see you sitting there, what are you thinking? I really could use someone to talk to today. Are you that person? Will you come my way if I invite you over? I have thought about doing this for days now, why not make it today! I am waving, please look my way, please don’t turn away. I don’t want to go back to my empty apartment only to be alone, not today.”
Person 1: “What? Oh my! Are you waving at me? I look around and see that everyone else has their head down with their faces glued to their computer or phone. I look back again and you are still waving with a smile. You are motioning me over, should I go? Will the conversation be awkward or will we hit it off? Will you become a friend? If I don’t go, I may never know.”
Person 2: “You are coming this way! My heart is smiling even if my stomach is also churning Will you become a friend, someone with who I can share my heart? You are almost here. Who knows what may develop, perhaps today is only the start of a friendship from the heart.