When I think of this word different images come to mind. I think of the wings of a butterfly, how delicate they are, and how you could easily hurt the wings if you held the butterfly the wrong way. BUT the butterfly isn’t delicate inside, this butterfly found its way out of its cocoon! It struggled and struggled til it broke free, bursting forth in colorful array!
I think of the dear elderly woman, whose hands are worn and she walks bent over. Appearing frail on the outside, but this is a woman who raised 9 children through the Depression, working hard on a farm. Her inner strength was strong back then and still is!
Sometimes we look at physical features and think ,”Oh that person is frail and weak!”, but we can be very wrong. When I was a teen, my short stature gave the impression to my mischievous guy friends that I was weak and a easy target.That I could be thrown into the pool, pond, ocean,etc. Basically any body of water attracted my body like a magnet. What they didn’t account for is my fighting spirit! The majority of the time they did accomplish the task, BUT…not every time. Wasn’t quite as simple as they had thought.
A few years back it was reported in Indiana about a elderly woman who had a robber break into her home. He wasn’t armed, he figured she was elderly; weak and frail and that it would be a easy task. I am sure he was red faced, when the cops came to pick him up as he was being beaten by this “frail” woman’s back scratcher!
We can’t look at the physical features of someone and determine the power of their spirit. And as strong as we want our hearts to be, we need to have a degree of fraility with them as well. Frailness isn’t always a bad thing.
As I shared in some past posts, this past year has been a hard one on our family. Our hearts have been broken, but it doesn’t mean that they are no longer strong. That fighting spirit is there and in ways my heart is stronger than ever before! But, there is still a frailty there as well.
When you face hard times and severe blows, there is a temptation to close up your heart with bars of steel. To lock it like Fort Knox so no one can get in and break it again! But my friends, this is the time when you need to let your heart still have some frailty to it.Maybe tenderness is a better word. Keeping your heart tender and knowing that by allowing yourself to love and trust again, you are risking the chance of being hurt again; but that it is worth the risk. For closing the door and throwing away the key, saying,”I’ll never be hurt again”, is only hurting yourself in the long run. Keeping yourself from blessings that are waiting out there for you to discover!
The human spirit is a powerful thing! It can be strong amidst the hardest of times, while still being tender and fragile like a butterfly’s wings. Breaking out of a cocoon ready to soar to new heights and to where ever life takes them! Knowing that yes, there would most likely still be those times in life where they fall, and heart ache comes BUT as one of my favorite quotes say…Don’t miss that chance!
In our culture, big seems to be synonymous with strength (both physical and mental) but, as you say, the perceived fragility of a butterfly or of an elderly lady is highly flawed. I seem to recall reading that if we, as a species, became extinct as a result of a nuclear conflagration… one of the creatures which would survive is the lowly cockroach! Who would expect that such a small creature would have developed such a survival skill!
Strength is a very subjective term and should not be underestimated in anybody, given the right motivation. Likewise the assumption of frailty could be a huge mistake but then, like every other aspect of people, we should never prejudge. We should never assume. We are taught that so many times and yet some folk still don’t get it!!!!!
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Interesting about the cockroach and yes if society would learn to not prejudge what a better world this place would be!!!
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You have a beautiful and strong spirit C! 🙂
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AWH! Thanks my friend! ❤
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Yes, it’s unhealthy to think of ourselves either as tough and unfeeling or as frail and vulnerable — there needs to be a healthy balance. Well said.
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Thanks Meg!
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You said it very well and it is so true. We need to keep our hearts open to love and trust again because we might just fly! I love the quote!
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Thanks PJ! 🙂
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You mentioned so many true statements in this post Joy. We need to start looking way past the physical, there is so much more within. And yes, I couldn’t agree more, even though shutting it out is easier, we need to open our once again. A beautiful and inspiring post. 🙂 ❤️
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Thank you sweet friend!! ❤
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I thought this was very beautifully written and well put! Certainly something to remember during those difficult moments in life. It reminds me of a quote I came across – “I now know that the darkness was a cocoon, not a prison. And here comes the butterfly.” 🙂
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Thank you my friend! I like that quote, thanks for sharing.
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Truer words were never written and it is one of those things I struggle to remember.
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Thank you and it is something I think so many of us struggle with!
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