It is a very bright, sunny and HOT day today! Sunshine makes me smile. and makes me think back to a day a little over 20 years ago! Jodi, one of my wonderful blogger friends, requested that I do a post about my Wedding Day. That request I am more than happy to do 🙂 Sit back , relax, and take a stroll down memory lane with me for just a bit.
Our wedding was originally planned for May, 1996. I loved Springtime and we talked about having the wedding and reception outside. When we would have to say goodbye to each other we would say Dream of May! And it would be in the cards that passed between us like crazy! He was from the cornfield of Indiana and I from Pennsylvania. Not ideal for dating. Especially before the days of email, texting, Skype,etc. NO, we had snail mail, expensive phone calls, miles and miles on his truck and me putting on miles in the sky:)
When thinking of having to go through a winter before we got to May, both of us started reconsidering about the month of May. Our winters are not always the best and I didn’t want to worry about him driving to see me, but I sure didn’t want to be apart from him all winter long! We mentioned February, than January and well we got to December when we found a date that would work with everyone. December 16th,1995. That left 2and 1/2 months to plan! No sweat! 🙂 When a girl is passionate about something, you make it happen!
Brad was supposed to arrive in Pa. the Thursday before our wedding. He and one of his groomsmen were driving his truck and then his friend would drive my car back to Indiana after the wedding. For yes I was moving. Not only did I have to plan a wedding, but had to pack up all my belongings as well. Will say that even tho Brad was 500 miles away he still was a great help in planning the wedding! We were a team.
We got a ice storm that week and I was beginning to panic at the thought of Brad driving out and at what kind of weather it would be for our wedding. We knew we faced the possibility of bad weather for our wedding day when planning but thought we would take the chance. Now it looked like it was going to happen. My Dad tried to console me by saying all we needed was for Brad to make it there, for my Dad was the pastor and we could get married at our house 🙂 Nice thought, but in all my childhood dreams of my wedding day I planned for a little more people to be there, than just my family!
I was thrilled that Brad made it and the weather cleared and our wedding day dawned sunny and bright. My wedding dress was short sleeves and I was glad, for amidst the nerves, and it being a balmy 50 degrees outside I was warm!
Remember me saying I am NOT a morning person, so as you can guess our wedding was not in the morning 😉 BUT that is one morning where I totally had no problem getting up! What time did I go to bed the night before, I forget, but I know it wasn’t early:) Getting ready with my dear family and friends by my side helping was surreal. Things went smoothly and before we knew it 1:30pm was almost here. To relieve my nerves, a close friend of mine gave a written message to my Maid of Honor. It read, “if you change your mind, I am sure the bullfrogs would take you!” He knew how to make me laugh! A explanation of that note will have to be in another post! But no worries, I had no second thoughts, no desire to change my mind! My dream was coming true! A dream that at times I thought would never happen, but here I was and it was really going to happen! All the teenage anxiety over boyfriends was gone, I had found my one and only on a magical New year’s Eve. And yes we had thought of getting married New Year’s Eve due to that 🙂
The music started. The wedding party walked down the aisle and I anxiously waited. The doors opened and I came out, everyone was standing but of course I only had eyes for the handsome, beaming groom up front. I laughed again as my husband- to- be got a very quizzical look on his face. It was directed at the soundman for Brad didn’t recognize the music and my very detailed guy was about to panic! But all was fine when my sister started singing, he figured it out that me and her had something planned. She sang a song from my perspective as I walked down to my forever love. We had lots of songs at our wedding, for we both loved music! He had made me 9 love song tapes when we were dating.
He had his little sentimental part planned to surprise me as well. I knew his friend was going to sing ,”If you could see what I see”. It talks about how if you could only see yourself the way I do, you would see how beautiful you are. Still one of my favorite songs. What I didn’t know is that at the part that says, “I get down on my knees for you.” that he would actually get down on his knees as he took my hand. Remember I cry easily and yeah I about lost it, but I controlled myself. That is until we said our vows. He went first and I remember just feeling so dazed and so in love, the feeling that you are sure you gotta be dreaming. That all those nights of tears over guys was so worth this wonderful blessing standing in front of me! And yes I still feel that way 🙂 So he finished and it was my turn, all I had to do was repeat what my dear Dad said to me. Dad said, repeat after me, and he said it and there was silence. Brad was looking at me with his beautiful eyes and dazzling smile and I couldn’t get past the lump in my throat. My cheeks were growing red, but it was one of those moments where you just know that if you open your mouth you are going to bawl! I looked to my Dad with pleading eyes that were saying , Just say it for me 🙂 Of course I was almost making him lose it as well. I did manage to say my vows after what seemed a LONG time and all I wanted to do was collapse against Brad and have him swoop me out of the church in his arms!
The sheer joy to hear us pronounced Man and Wife made me want to RUN down the aisle and I am NOT a runner!
Reception was great, celebrating with family and friends, sharing stories. Some friends thought that they needed to inform Brad that I prefer sleeping in a tree with the birds! Yeah, another story for another time 🙂
One moment I will never forget from our reception is my 10 year old niece surprising me with the song from the Monkees. “I’m a Believer!” Her younger brothers sang back up, it was priceless! She had a great voice then, and it has only grown more beautiful just like her.
We took off from the church in his balloon filled truck, and made a stop that I am willing to say not many, if any newlyweds have ever made. We stopped at the Retirement home I had worked at. We went from floor to floor greeting the residents that I had grown to love. I was so thankful that Brad was willing to do that with me. My Dad who also worked at the home was saying how the residents talked about our visit for weeks afterwards, how it meant so much to them. It meant a lot to me to say goodbye, knowing that a lot of them I wouldn’t see again.
On a funny note, I had introduced him to my residents before when we were dating. There was one lady in particular who was always very blunt with her words and some people she could offend, but really she was a sweet person inside, just very brash. Well she was the first person when we walked inside the home the first time I brought him there. She always sat right in the lobby, didn’t want to miss any of the action. She would always complain as well when the doors would open cause of freezing cold air coming in 🙂 I introduced Brad to her and she looked him up and down and said, “So do you have something baking in her oven yet?” I said, “Izzy!!” but could not control my laughter as Brad is standing there red faced. Am so glad to say that in 1999 we were back in Pa. and were able to present our little daughter to her::)
After the retirement home we did go to where most newlyweds go and now is the time to go and end this post.:)